Faith and Religion
Some of the oldest accounts of forgiveness can be found in the Hebrew, Christian, Muslim, Buddhist, Confucian, and Hindu texts. Forgiveness has a positive presence in all of these religions and philosophies.
Forgiveness in the Bible
The word “forgive” occurs 81 times in the whole of the Bible, notes Robin Sam, editor of India’s Christian Messenger website. “Forgiveness” occurs 124 times, “forgiving” occurs 11 times, “forgiven” occurs 61 times and “forgave” occurs 13 times. Together, they make about 290 verses on the topic of forgiveness in the Bible.
In Colossians 3:13, the apostle Paul encourages us to, “Be gentle and ready to forgive; never hold grudges. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.” Here is a list of Bible verses on forgiveness. From the website What Christians Want to Know, here are “5 Bible Lessons About Forgiveness” and “What Does the Bible Say About Forgiveness.”
Pope Francis: “Pray, Love and Forgive.”
Pope Francis is the leader of the Catholic Church, the world’s largest Christian denomination. His daily addresses at St. Peter’s Square regularly highlight the importance of forgiveness. Here is his Twitter feed from Dec. 26, 2020: “We too can change evil into good each day. Loving actions change history: even the ones that are small, hidden, everyday. For God guides history through the humble courage of those who pray, love and forgive.”
The 76-year-old Pope Francis was born Jorge Mario Bergoglio in Buenos Aires, Argentina. He was elected by the Papal Conclave as the 266th Pope of the Catholic Church on March 13, 2013. He is the first Jesuit pope, the first pope from the Americas, and the first pope from the Southern Hemisphere. Watch a 10 minute video, 15 Things You Didn’t Know About Pope Francis.
Pope Benedict XVI: Forgiveness is Key to Global Peace
The now-retired Pope Benedict XVI says that forgiveness is the key to creating harmony between peoples and nations. “Forgiveness is not a denial of wrong-doing, but a participation in the healing and transforming love of God which reconciles and restores,” Pope Benedict said in an April 30, 2012 message to the Pontifical Academy of Social Sciences. “Historic wrongs and injustices can only be overcome if men and women are inspired by a message of healing and hope, a message that offers a way forward, out of the impasse that so often locks people and nations into a vicious circle of violence.”
In his message, Pope Benedict encouraged the Academy to explore the legacy and lessons of Pope John XXIII’s 1963 encyclical “Pacem in Terris” (Peace on Earth). In that “letter to the world,” Pope John wrote, “The world will never be the dwelling-place of peace till peace has found a home in the heart of each and every human person.” Read more about Pope Benedict’s message on forgiveness, “Pope Benedict says forgiveness is key to global peace.”
The Church as Forgiving Community
We are currently trying to innovate an idea that we call “The Church as Forgiving Community.” By this we mean that a group of people can do extraordinary things with forgiveness that one person alone cannot. For example, the community can preserve the knowledge of forgiveness for many generations. The community can establish norms that hold up forgiveness as valuable for all or many to see and appreciate. The community can help preserve the value of forgiveness when any given individual’s will to do so gets weak. This can occur in a synagogue or mosque as well as in a church. We use the word “church” because that is what we happen to know best.
What might be involved in your place of worship becoming a “Forgiving Community”? We recommend that three people (at least) come together with the strong will to keep the idea of person-to-person forgiveness in front of the people in your place of worship. Even with such a small number, you can do great things. Here are some examples in a church setting:
- Encourage your church leaders to give at least three sermons a year on the topic of forgiveness.
- Does your place of worship have a weekly bulletin (paper or on-line forms)? If so, consider placing a brief reflection on people forgiving other people into that bulletin six times a year.
- Hold a forgiveness retreat once a year for anyone in your place of worship who might be interested in attending. The retreat could be, for example, from 9 a.m. to 4:30 p.m. on a Saturday. In this way, all participants need only one meal (lunch) and they are home by suppertime.
Publications From the IFI
Dr. Enright more fully outlined his Church as Forgiving Community concept during a presentation he made on February 28, 2011 at Pontifica Universita Della Santa Croce in Rome, Italy. Read his entire presentation or read about The Church as Forgiving Community which begins on page 23 of the presentation. Dr. Enright and Chad Magnuson propose a three-tiered holistic psycho-educational approach called “The Forgiving Communities,” that targets three interdependent categories: the family, the school, and the Church. Their research paper on the subject was published in the Journal of Psychology and Theology (2008).
Catholic Formation in Forgiveness
- Listen to Dr. Enright discuss forgiveness from a religious perspective as a guest on The Drew Mariani Show, a production of Relevant Radio.
- The Most Reverend Robert C. Morlino, Bishop of the Diocese of Madison, WI, has been a strong advocate of Dr. Enright’s forgiveness education work. The Forgiveness Education Program, for example, is being taught in every Catholic school in the city of Madison. Read a letter of endorsement from Bishop Morlino.
- We have had a number of requests for Catholic retreats and workshops. Contact the IFI Director if you have an interest in a retreat or workshop for your church or simply want to learn more.
Forgiveness as Redemptive Suffering
We have done countless scientific studies while helping people to “bear the pain” of injustice and to give the gift of empathy and compassion toward the injuring person. The paradox of forgiveness is that as the forgiver bears the pain on behalf of the other person, the forgiver experiences emotional healing.
And as Dr. Enright outlines in his presentation, Forgiveness as Redemptive Suffering, “As a person suffers because of another’s injustice, the one who suffers in forgiving is entering into redemptive suffering for that other person.” That redemptive suffering is an expression of love.“
In order to suffer well, you need to love,” says Mary Lou Coons, who founded the Puppets for Peace Foundation as an outlet for the trauma of her brain and spinal cord impairments. “When suffering is accepted with love, it is no longer suffering, but is changed into joy.” That kind of love can grow into “an unceasing act of love from the heart” Coons adds, by following The Littlest Way of Love (from the writings of Sr. Consolata Bertrone). The Foundation’s mission is “spreading peace, love and joy to others.”
Songs About Forgiveness
“Sometimes it takes a song to make us really listen to the message,” says freelance writer and Christian blogger Pam Williams. “Songs about forgiveness are a great way to reflect upon the grace and mercy that our Heavenly Father offers to the whole world.” Pam, who with her pastor-husband serves at Selah Mountain Ministries in Albuquerque, New Mexico, has compiled her Top 10 Songs About Forgiveness. Access the songs, lyrics, and background on the performers at the popular website What Christians Want to Know.
Forgiveness: the Keystone of Human Values
“Forgiveness can be one way to reduce conflict and hostility, as well as to promote understanding and respect, to diminish unresolved hurt and pain that burdens many. Forgiveness is a choice, a decision, an act of bravery requiring courage; it is hard work.”
What’s the Difference Between Agnosticism and Atheism?
Find the answer to that question and much more by comparing the basics of virtually every major religion in the world at “Agnostic vs Atheist.” Compare the basic tenents of Buddhism, Christianity, Hinduism, Islam, Judaism and more using the lists and chronicles at the very bottom of the page linked just above.
Blogs and News
- Read the amazing story of Ciril Cus, who grew up in a small Slovenian town on the border of Croatia as part of a traditional Catholic family with two brothers and a sister. But there was nothing traditional about his childhood, his abusive father who nearly beat him to death, and his long journey down the path to forgiving his father: Son Forgives Abusive Father Who Fractured the Boy’s Skull 14 Times in 3 Years.
- Here’s a recent article with Dr. Enright’s thoughts on “How Forgiveness Clarifies the Soul” We not only step into someone else’s shoes when we let that person off the hook, but we gain better health and more hope. LifeZette.com
- Become a “Peace Builder” by signing The Forgiveness Pledge.