Seeing with New Eyes
The late Lewis Smedes used this expression: to see with new eyes. He meant this: When we forgive we no longer see in the same way those who have hurt us. We see them from a wider perspective than just their offenses against us. We see them as worthwhile people, not because of what they did, but in spite of this.
So, in this tradition of Dr. Smedes, let us do a little homework today. As you interact with or even pass by five different people, please think these thoughts about him or her:
1. This person has inherent, or built-in, worth that cannot be taken away from him/her.
2. This person is special, unique, and irreplaceable. When this person is no longer living, there will not be another person exactly like him/her.
3. In all likelihood, this person is carrying around emotional wounds received because of other’s mistreatment of him/her.
Then, once this thinking exercise is complete, try to apply the statements to one person who has been unfair to you, who has hurt you. Try to “see with new eyes” as you reflect on this person.
Dr. Bob
