Worth-less or Worth-more?

“As we continually live with love withdrawn from us and a resulting resentment (with the short-term consequences of thinking with a negative pattern, thinking specific condemning thoughts, and acting poorly), we can settle into a kind of long-term distortion of who the love-withdrawing person is, who we ourselves are, and who people are in general. The basic issue here is that once love is withdrawn from us, we can begin to withdraw a sense of worth toward the one who hurt us. The conclusion is that he or she is worth-less. Over time, we can drift into the dangerous conclusion, ‘I, too, am worthless.’ After all, others have withdrawn love from me and have concluded that I lack worth, therefore I do lack worth. Even later, we can drift into the unhealthy conclusion that there is no love in the world and so no one really has any worth, thus everyone is worth-less.” Excerpt from the book, The Forgiving Life, Chapter 1.


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  1. Samantha says:

    This is an important reminder especially during the holidays as people look back on their lives. We should not condemn ourselves just because someone else was hurting and thus hurt us.

  2. James says:

    Your blog post before this one is about bullies. Don’t you think that many of them say to themselves on a regular basis that they are worth-less? They then try to inflict that attitude onto others. I am of the opinion that the bully’s self-esteem is usually on the floor.

  3. Amanda says:

    Thank you. I have beaten myself up for what others have done to me. This is stopping right now. I needed a wider vision and you provided it.


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