Couples’ Time for Forgiveness
Busy….busy….busy. No time to just sit and abide in each other’s presence. With all of our labor saving devices it is hard to believe that we have so little time for each other on a deep, meaningful level.
This can be corrected by willing a change.
We at the International Forgiveness Institute suggest a 10 minute (or more if the conversation develops) couples forgiveness retreat once a week. Set the day and time and will to stick with it. In that time, discuss your hurts from the past week. Who hurt you and how were you hurt? What did you do about it? Is forgiveness on your radar now or are you perhaps planning to put it on your radar for discussion and work toward forgiving? Support your partner in his or her struggle to forgive. Be a forgiveness motivator and even a forgiveness inspiration.
It takes a strong will to do this. The rewards may themselves strengthen your will to pursue this little weekly retreat on a regular basis.
Robert
This is now on the calendar for 2014…..Our new year’s resolution. As you have stated in other posts—persistence, persistence, persistence.
This needs to be cultivated as a habit—a good habit. It can be done if we just start and allow this to take hold as a regular pattern in the family.
This idea can be expanded. Why not try it with the kids or even the entire family. Even those who live alone can do a forgiveness check once a week to see how it is going. It need not be limited to couples.