On the Accumulation of Wounds

Has the struggle with the injustice made you tired? Let us say that you have 10 points of energy to get through each day. How many of those points of energy do you use fighting (even subconsciously) the injustice as an internal struggle? Even if you are giving 1 or 2 points of your energy each day to this, it is too much and could be considered another wound for you.

When you consider the person and the situation now under consideration, do you see any changes in your life that were either a direct or indirect consequence of the person’s injustice? In what way did your life change that led to greater struggle for you? On our 0-to-10 scale, how great a change was there in your life as a result of the injustice? Let a 0 stand for no change whatsoever, a 5 stand for moderate change in your life, and a 10 stand for dramatic change in your life. Your answer will help you determine whether this is another wound for you. As you can see, the wounds from the original injustice have a way of accumulating and adding to your suffering.

Excerpt from the book The Forgiving Life (APA Lifetools), Robert D. Enright (2012-07-05).  (Kindle Locations 2750-2753). American Psychological Association. Kindle Edition.

Enright, Robert D. (2012-07-05). The Forgiving Life (APA Lifetools) (Kindle Locations 2784-2788). American Psychological Association. Kindle Edition.

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  1. Adhas says:

    This shows how important it is to get started with forgiving as soon as one is ready. The complications from injustices and unforgiveness are more than I wish to carry with me.

  2. Chris says:

    I have been in this position before, being overly wounded by being wounded in the original injustice. If I ignore all of this, then the one who hurt me wins. I won’t let that happen.

  3. Samantha says:

    I try to forgive as soon as i am hurt because I am well aware of these complications. I just do not want to add wounds to my wounds and forgiveness is the preventive of that.

  4. Nadine says:

    I have had enough wounds. I will not self-inflict by not forgiving.


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