I am interested in character development. What would you suggest to me if I want to change my character so that I do not hurt so much from what happened to me? I don’t want to be consumed by the pain.
A paradox is to bear the pain of what happened so that you do not run from it or deny it. It seems like a contradiction to ask you to bear the very same pain that you do not want. Yet, as you courageously bear that pain, you begin to see that you are able to stand under the weight of that pain. You begin to see that you are stronger than you might have realized. As you continue to stand in courage like this, the pain begins to lift and you then have a confidence that you can confront and defeat any future pain that comes your way.
A paradox is to bear the pain of what happened so that you do not run from it or deny it. It seems like a contradiction to ask you to bear the very same pain that you do not want. Yet, as you courageously bear that pain, you begin to see that you are able to stand under the weight of that pain. You begin to see that you are stronger than you might have realized. As you continue to stand in courage like this, the pain begins to lift and you then have a confidence that you can confront and defeat any future pain that comes your way.
