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Question 7 of 10: Forgiveness is not a moral virtue but a skill of learning to stop reacting with negative passions. Is this correct?
The Internet is a double-edged sword. It can enlighten and quickly, but at the same time, it can mislead. When I searched the Internet for the definition and some general issues on forgiveness, I was surprised by a rising consensus in up to 10 areas, each of which seems odd to me. May I ask you to consider each one of these “discoveries” so that you can help me to understand better? Thank you in advance for your time.
If forgiveness were only a “skill,” then it suffers the same fate as “just moving on” or learning how to relax. These likely will not cure your resentment, be central in the possibility of a renewed relationship, or be of direct service to the one who hurt you. Forgiveness has a paradox connected to it. As you forgive and begin to have goodness toward the one who hurt you, then your inner healing from the resentment tends to begin.
Question 6 of 10: A major part of forgiving is to learn to relax. Is this correct?
The Internet is a double-edged sword. It can enlighten and quickly, but at the same time, it can mislead. When I searched the Internet for the definition and some general issues on forgiveness, I was surprised by a rising consensus in up to 10 areas, each of which seems odd to me. May I ask you to consider each one of these “discoveries” so that you can help me to understand better? Thank you in advance for your time.
If this were true, where is the goodness toward the offending person here? Relaxation is good, but what happens to your resentment when you get up and stop relaxing? Relaxation may temporarily halt your resentment, but it won’t necessarily cure it, and at the same time, the other person is not part of this approach.
Question 5 of 10: If I am not ready to forgive, might forgiveness then be a pressure game where I feel forced to forgive?
The Internet is a double-edged sword. It can enlighten and quickly, but at the same time, it can mislead. When I searched the Internet for the definition and some general issues on forgiveness, I was surprised by a rising consensus in up to 10 areas, each of which seems odd to me. May I ask you to consider each one of these “discoveries” so that you can help me to understand better? Thank you in advance for your time.
Forgiveness is a free will choice that should not be forced upon you by others.
Question 4 of 10: What’s the big deal about “dismissing the other person” if it helps me to feel better?
The Internet is a double-edged sword. It can enlighten and quickly, but at the same time, it can mislead. When I searched the Internet for the definition and some general issues on forgiveness, I was surprised by a rising consensus in up to 10 areas, each of which seems odd to me. May I ask you to consider each one of these “discoveries” so that you can help me to understand better? Thank you in advance for your time.
Deep resentments can literally last for years and so they need strong medicine to be cured. Science has shown that forgiveness can be that strong medicine.
Question 3 of 10: Is this correct?: Forgiveness is for you, not for the one who was unfair to you.
The Internet is a double-edged sword. It can enlighten and quickly, but at the same time, it can mislead. When I searched the Internet for the definition and some general issues on forgiveness, I was surprised by a rising consensus in up to 10 areas, each of which seems odd to me. May I ask you to consider each one of these “discoveries” so that you can help me to understand better? Thank you in advance for your time.
If this were true, then forgiveness is not a moral virtue. Instead, it is a self-help strategy that might end up dismissing the other person.
