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July 17 Marks a Day of Forgiveness in the Face of Cruel Execution Over 230 Years Ago
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On July 17, 1794, and as part of the French Revolution, 16 Carmelite nuns were martyred at the guillotine in Paris. As she was facing death, one of the sisters, Sister Mary of Jesus Crucified, proclaimed, “I forgive you, my friends. I forgive you with all that longing of heart with which I would that God forgive me!” All of the sisters now are known as the Martyrs of Compiègne. Pope St. Pius X beatified all of these heroic sisters on May 27, 1906.
You emphasize getting to know the person in a broader sense, who is the offender. Yet, what if the other is unknown to me? How am I supposed to widen my view of this stranger?
We tend to emphasize three cognitive approaches in the forgiveness process. The first is the Personal Perspective, in which the forgiver examines the personal history of the offending person, examining incidents in which this person has been hurt by others. If you do not know the one who offended, then you cannot answer the questions in the Personal Perspective. Yet, we also have what we call the Global Perspective in which the forgiver sees the shared inherent worth of both the offending person and the self. After all, each is a person and all persons are unique, which makes each special and irreplaceable. A third perspective, for those who have transcendent beliefs, is the Cosmic Perspective. For example, a Jewish or Christian person can understand that all people are made in the image and likeness of God, as stated in Genesis 1 of the Bible. So, even though you do not know the one who hurt you, both the Global and Cosmic Perspectives are available for you to do the cognitive work of forgiveness.
If people give it enough time, will they naturally forgive, or do you think there has to be an active process to forgive?
If the injustice is serious and the hurt is deep, time alone will likely not cure the resentment. I say this based on our research. For example, in the study with elderly females in hospice, some of them were carrying resentment for decades. Once they engaged in the process of forgiveness, they were able to forgive and increase in hope. Here is the reference to that publication:
Hansen, M.J., Enright. R.D., Baskin, T.W., & Klatt, J. (2009). A palliative care intervention in forgiveness therapy for elderly terminally-ill cancer patients. Journal of Palliative Care, 25, 51-60.
Dr. Enright’s essay on how forgiveness can be tricky featured on Psychology Today website
Dr. Robert Enright
On July 22, 2025, Robert Enright published an essay on the Psychology Today website:
5 Expressions of Forgiveness That Can Trick Even the Forgiver, July 22, 2025
The essay was designated as an Essential Read and featured on the front page of the website, subsequently distributed to other media outlets.
Can there be true justice without forgiveness? If so, can you provide an example for me?
Here is an example of justice occurring without forgiveness: Suppose a person is arrested and convicted for assault. Justice has been realized in a court of law. The one assaulted may choose not to forgive. Even so, justice was served. The two, forgiveness and justice, need not occur together, but when people forgive, they can and should seek justice.
