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What do you mean when you say that forgiving is a paradox?

A paradox is an apparent contradiction that actually is not a contradiction.  When we forgive, we give goodness to those who are not good to us.  This seems contradictory to justice, but it is compatible with mercy.  As we give such goodness, it seems that the other is taking advantage of us and so we will never heal emotionally.  Yet, the paradox is this:  As we give goodness to the other person, we as forgivers can heal quite deeply in a psychological sense through this act of goodness.