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College Students, Forgiveness, and Well-Being
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In a study of 463 Spanish university students done in 2025, the researchers reported positive correlations among forgiveness, hope, and self-esteem. They reported negative correlations among forgiveness and anger, anxiety, and depression. The authors suggest that preparing the students for a healthy entry into the workplace as adults could be enhanced if universities had forgiveness programs for the students.
The reference to the article is this:
Bonete S, Molinero C, Sendra S and González De Abreu AM (2025) A path to better mental health among emerging adults: forgiveness as a solution to interpersonal conflicts. Frontiers in Psychology, 16:1477283. doi: 10.3389/fpsyg.2025.1477283
Recent Essays in Psychology Today
Dr. Robert Enright
Within the past two months, Dr. Enright had the following two essays published In the on-line Psychology Today website:
Are You Ready to Become Forgivingly Fit?, November 15, 2025
The False Idea That Forgiveness Is for Me, Not the Offender, October 8, 2025
The essays can be accessed by clicking on the two titles.
As Elderly People Live with Their Family
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Researchers, who did a study in India published in 2025, asked 12 elderly participants about their experiences of living with their families. The conclusion was that practicing forgiveness within the family context was helpful for these elderly participants in avoiding interpersonal conflicts and enhancing relationships within the family context.
The reference to the article is this:
Tiwari, G. K., Singh, A., Choudhary, A., Shukla, A., Macorya, A. K., Pandey, A., & Singh, A. K. (2025). Forgiveness in Later Life: Attributes and Consequences for Older Adults in Indian Families. Marriage & Family Review, 61(7), 710–736. https://doi.org/10.1080/01494929.2025.2484381
Calling Artificial Intelligence…….Calling AI. What Is Forgiveness?
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Yesterday, I asked AI about forgiveness and received this definition: “Forgiveness is the intentional decision to let go of resentment and anger toward someone who has harmed you, regardless of whether they deserve it.”
I then asked another form of rationality about this definition. That other form was my own studying of forgiveness for the past 40 years. Here is my response to the new intelligence that so many see as definitive:
1. Forgiveness is a decision. No, it is not. A decision is only one part of forgiveness. As an analogy, suppose you “make a decision” to work in a soup kitchen. There, you did it. However, suppose that you now spend most of your time on the couch as you eat corn chips and never actually go to the soup kitchen. Does your “decision” to work in the soup kitchen actually fulfill the goal? No, because you now have to act on this decision. This involves: a) thinking, such as planning; b) feeling, such as having sympathy toward those who do not have homes, which serves as an internal motivator to get up off the couch and put the chips away; and c) behavior as you go to the soup kitchen, get your assignment, and fulfill it.
2. Forgiveness is letting go of resentment. No again, it is not. If forgiveness only consists of letting go of resentment, then one might be able to do that by, for example, having disparaging thoughts about the offending person, such as, “This person is such a low-life that he just can’t help himself. I need to stay away from anyone like that!”
3. Forgiveness is letting go of “resentment and anger.” No again. Resentment encompasses anger in bigger doses over long periods of time. If one is going to use the terms “resentment and anger,” it is necessary to distinguish them. Short-term anger can be good as you see that no one should treat you unfairly. Resentment, as longer term anger, can turn on the one harboring it so that fatigue and even anxiety or depression might emerge.
4. The AI sentence shows reductionism. If AI were to expand what forgiveness is, it should include adding ideas such as “forgiveness is a moral virtue, or deliberately being good to those who are not good to you, more positive thoughts, feelings, and behaviors toward those who acted unfairly.” This would include working against the opposite of goodness, or struggling against negative thoughts that condemn, negative feelings that could include resentment, and negative behaviors which can include revenge toward those who offended.
AI does not have all the answers. Beware the easy way out when trying to understand what forgiveness is and is not. It is not excusing unjust behavior, automatically reconciling, or abandoning the quest for justice.
Heroic Forgiveness in Recent Church Shooting
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On September 28, 2025, Thomas Jacob Sanford drove his pickup truck through the front doors of the meetinghouse of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints during a worship service in Grand Blanc Township, Michigan. He opened fire with an assault rifle and then set the structure ablaze. Four people were killed and eight were wounded. He was killed in the parking lot by police. In the aftermath, at least six online fundraisers were started for the assailant’s widow and children. David Butler of Utah started a fundraising campaign that saw thousands of people donating. The fundraising efforts were not without their critics, who said that the victims’ families should be the recipients of the gifts. Yet, the gifts were a gesture of forgiveness, shown directly to the offending person’s family.
