I have started the forgiveness process, stopped, begun again, and stopped again. I am feeling guilty for not just following through and finishing the job of forgiveness. What do you think?
We have to keep in mind that the forgiveness process is not the same as taking a journey in the car from point A to point B in the next 20 minutes. Forgiveness takes time, sometimes months. People need to take breaks to refresh. There is nothing wrong with taking your time and sometimes stopping. For how long do you stop? If you stop, say, for months at a time, then you might benefit from asking yourself if there is something getting in your way of forgiving. Are you afraid of forgiving? Are you simply distracted by life’s tasks? If so, then you might consider setting aside a certain amount of time each day or every other day to do the work of forgiving. Try to ascertain the reason for the stopping: the need for temporary refreshment, fear, discipline?