I have confidence in forgiveness when I think I have 100% confidence that the other person will “shape up.”  I have less confidence in forgiveness if I think my forgiving will not lead to a good change in the other person.  What do you think about this?

When we forgive, we decide to be good to someone (or more than one person) who was unfair to us.  There is no guarantee that the other person will change as we offer this mercy.  So, I would encourage you to change your thinking about what forgiveness is.  It is freely given to the other person(s) even when there is no guarantee that the other will gladly accept your generous offering and then change for the better.

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