Tagged: “Enright Forgiveness Process Model”

What is the difference between forgiving and legal pardon?

When a judge decides to reduce a deserved sentence for a person within a correctional system, that judge is not the one who was treated unjustly by the one pardoned.  The judge, in other words, needs to be detached from the unjust situation for a fair ruling.  In contrast, a forgiver has been the one (or among the ones) injured and, from that position, offers mercy.  Both are offering mercy, but forgiving is deeply personal and often involves emotional pain within the forgiver, which is not the case for the judge who engages in legal pardon.

I have heard that your colleagues and you have written a manuscript on the philosophical issues of the definition of forgiveness.  Would you please provide me with that reference?

We have a complete issue of the American Psychological Association’s Journal of Theoretical and Philosophical Psychology, which is the first issue, in February for 2025.  The reference to our central article in that issue and our final response to the commentaries are as follows:

Song, J., Enright, R.D., & Kim, J. (2025). Definitional drift within the science of forgiveness: The dangers of avoiding philosophical analyses.

Journal of Theoretical and Philosophical Psychology, 45(1), 3-24. Note: This is the centerpiece article for a special issue on the definition of forgiveness within psychology. doi: https://doi.org/10.1037/teo0000278

Enright, R.D., Kim, J., & Song, J. (2025). Our hope that definitional drift in forgiveness will cease from drifting: Our comments on the six commentaries. Journal of Theoretical and Philosophical Psychology, 45(1), 65-71.doi: https://doi.org/10.1037/teo0000306

If I do not reconcile once I have forgiven, does this make the forgiveness process incomplete?

Forgiveness is what you are able to offer, from your own free will, and when you do so, then you have done the best that you can right now.  Reconciliation, in contrast, involves at least two or more people coming together again in mutual—-mutual—-trust.  If the other person remains unrepentant and continues with hurtful, unjust behavior, you can go in peace knowing that you have forgiven, and so you can go in peace.  Your forgiving is complete even if the other refuses to reconcile.

It seems to be dangerous to advocate for forgiveness when a person is being abused in a partnering relationship.  Wouldn’t such forgiveness simply encourage the forgiver to stay in the unhealthy relationship?

Actually, no.  Forgiving, properly understood, does not include automatic reconciliation.  A person can begin to forgive while in the relationship, so that the anger can be reduced, which would be healthy for the forgiver.  This person then can ask for justice, and if the severe injustice continues, then the forgiver could consider leaving the toxic relationship.

Can I forgive my cat who clawed up my favorite pillow?

I would urge you to accept what your cat did, but not forgive your cat.  Cats, like other mammals, do not have rational faculties as humans do.  Cats do not reason out what is right and wrong the way people do.  Therefore, we cannot impute ill intent to cats the way we can with people.  Forgiveness, then, is for persons and not for cats, dogs, or non-sentient issues such as tornadoes.