My friend stole some money from me while I was sleeping and when I confronted her, she denied it. But it is obvious that she took it because I had a $20 in my purse and then it was gone. How can I talk with her so that we can have a possibility of reconciling?
If you are sure that she took the money, then your first forgiving her will make dialogue easier because you will not be talking while deeply resentful. After your anger has reduced because of forgiveness, I would then initiate the dialogue and look for what I call “the 3 R’s” of remorse (inner sorrow), repentance (verbally expressing regret), and recompense (repaying the money) on her part. If she demonstrates the 3 R’s in a sincere way, this will be a first step to restoring your trust. Trust is an important step to complete reconciliation.