My partner repents, means well, and tries hard, but his temper still gets the better of him.  How can he change for the better? 

I suggest that your partner go back in time and examine all of the people who have deeply hurt him and see if there is anger remaining in need of forgiveness.  Also, consider examining the modeling effect: Were people in your partner’s family of origin overly angry and your partner observed this, imitated this, and now is bringing this pattern, which was modeled, into your relationship. If this is the case, then the insight of the connection between observing behaviors from the past and bringing them into the present may help reduce the frequent expressions of temper.

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