I think it might be hard to help adolescents learn to appreciate forgiving. I say this because they are in a developmental time of independence or trying to be self-reliant. Will they really sit and listen to you about forgiveness?
Forgiveness, according to Aristotle, develops in part by practice and by the support of others for that practice. I suggest what we might call “teachable moments.” Suppose you are watching a film together and there is conflict among the characters. You could ask this of the adolescent: “What might have happened if Character A forgave Character B rather than seeking revenge?” Another teachable moment is at the dinner table when people may be talking about their experiences that day. If someone has had a conflict at school or at work, then discuss this with an eye toward forgiveness as still a possible option.
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