The eleventh of 15 criticisms that I so characteristically see on-line is this: The self-help advice suggests that forgiving is a quick-fix, accomplished so quickly as to be a superficial and misguided way of healing from trauma.

Research consistently shows that to forgive a person for a very deep injustice that has resulted in the effects of trauma takes patience, struggle, and time.  This science shows that to forgive a person for such deep injustices is definitely not a quick fix.  The problem here is in the advice of quickness and not something inherent in forgiveness itself.

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