I am a little confused. Your Process Model of Forgiveness asks the forgiver to examine the history of the one who acted badly. The point, it seems to me, is to see the woundedness in the one who was unfair. If I see that he was wounded, for example, in childhood, doesn’t this act as an excuse for his behavior?

Actually, no, this insight does not act as an excuse for his behavior because he has free will regarding how to respond to other people when he is wounded.  Given his free will, he then has a choice to be fair to others or to exploit others . His previous woundedness does not automatically make him a robot who now acts badly.

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