My partner keeps telling me to forgive him and “just move on.” He hurt me big-time and so it is not so easy to just “move on.” I am not ready yet to truly forgive because, to me, this takes time. Is this what forgiveness is, “just moving on”?

You are correct to be hesitant about forgiveness being “just moving on.”  This is a mistake in that it reduces forgiveness to what it is not.  You can move on with cold indifference toward the one who acted unjustly.  When you forgive, you strive to see the humanity in the other, not because of what happened, but in spite of this.  You strive to offer compassion, benevolence, and even love (at least eventually) toward the other.  As you rightly point out, this can take time.

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