Fear or anger—-which of these emotions is more central to overcome with forgiving?

If you are fearful of what the other did to you and might do again, you can avoid reconciliation with this person.  You can forgive without reconciling.  Forgiveness starts within a person, with thinking and feeling toward the other.  You need not take the step of behaving toward the other—of interacting with the other—if this person continues to harm you.  This should reduce fear.  Anger tends to be reduced first through forgiving.  The anger can lessen even more if the other person is repentant, apologizes to you, and changes for the better so that you can reconcile with a sense of genuine trust toward the person.

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