How does going through the forgiveness process alter how one now views the past, in looking back on a betrayal?

When we forgive, we do not literally forget the past.  What tends to happen is this:  As the one who forgives looks back, there can be some anger or sadness, but it does not overwhelm the forgiver.  The person now can look back without the same level of pain that occurred then.  Here is an analogy:  Have you ever had a broken bone or a sprained ankle?  At the time, it was very painful, but once it is healed, and when you look back, you do not experience the exact same level of pain now.  It is similar with forgiveness in that, as you look back, the amount of pain tends to be diminished even if some emotional pain is present.

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