I think waiting for an apology prior to forgiving is a protection for the forgiver, who has been hurt by the other’s actions.  What do you think?

When our goal is to protect ourselves, which is a very good thing to do, we are exercising the moral virtue of justice.  When we are forgiving, we are exercising the moral virtue of mercy.  We can and should let both grow up together.  Therefore, a person can forgive first and with this softened heart ask fairness of the other, which can include the request for an apology.

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