If my motivation is to reduce my rage toward the one who was really unfair to me and if I am not getting any relief, then is this a good reason to abandon the quest to forgive this person?

If you are struggling with offering forgiveness, you certainly can take a break for a while and refresh before trying again.  Yet, please keep in mind that the essence of forgiveness is to be merciful toward the offending person and so you still can continue with the forgiveness process regardless of your own psychological improvement.  Please keep in mind that it can take time for psychological improvement to occur when you forgive, especially when you are deeply hurt.  Therefore, you may need patience and time before you experience the psychological improvement.  Thus, you can forgive as you remain psychologically challenged and then hope for such improvement within yourself as you engage in the forgiveness process.

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