If forgiveness and reconciliation are different, as you have said, then can I forgive and just write off the other in non-reconciliation?
When we forgive, we see the other as a person of worth. This means that on its deepest level, forgiveness makes room for reconciliation if the other can repent, change harmful ways, and be trusted. So, even without being able to reconcile with the other because of the other’s entrenched harmful behavior, you can be open to future change in the other. This does not mean that you do not move on in life. For example, if your boss and you do not get along at all, you can leave that job and find another. If the boss changes, you can interact in a kind way and still retain your new job. In other words, being open to reconciliation does not mean that your roles with one another must remain as you wait for change in the other person. Your reconciliation in this example would mean kindness and respect toward one another even if your roles with each other (boss and employee) have changed.
