I am being accused of indifference toward my partner. Yet, I see a difference between my actions and my intentions. I have been under a lot of pressure at work lately and have had to work very long hours. I do not mean to neglect my partner. In contrast, my partner is accusing me of ignoring. What do I do now?
A key issue is to forthrightly examine how long this work pattern has been occurring. Has it been for a week, a month, or many months? If this pattern has been for a long time, it is important for both of you to find some balance in the work and life pattern so that your partner does not feel neglected. If this has been a short time, then you need to engender hope in the partner by showing that this work pressure is temporary and will end soon. If it will not end soon, then I think you need to work with your partner on how to change the pattern, at least to a degree, so that you have both fairness at work and fairness with your partner. Even though your intentions are honorable, if your behavior is frustrating your partner for good reasons, then you might ask the partner to forgive you as you strive for more balance in the relationship.
