I have reached the part in my forgiveness journey where, according to the Fourfold Path of Forgiveness (cf Tutu: “the Book of Forgiving”) I have to “tell my story”. How can I tell a story that encompasses 25+ years of abuse? The only theory that I have at the moment that wouldn’t take 25+ years, is to break it down into themes: Manipulative Lying; Anger and emotional abuse; Financial irresponsibility that put me and my kids into poverty. There are of course sub-sets and crossovers. There is also the way my children and my now deceased parents suffered (I know I need to ask for forgiveness myself here).
You make a good point that to tell your story may be difficult because you have had 25 years of abuse. Perhaps this may help: Think about your story in relative terms with regard to the length of your narrative. People can tell their stories in a paragraph, or in a page, or in a couple of pages, or in a chapter, or in an entire book. Of course, if you tell your story only in a paragraph or a page, then your story will show only general statements rather than specific, detailed descriptions. So that you are not overwhelmed in this process of telling your story, may I recommend that you try to summarize your story in no more than two pages?
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