Forgive and forget: Do these really fit together?
I have come to realize that when we forgive, we do not develop a kind of moral amnesia. Instead, we remember in new ways, without the deep pain we experienced at first. We tend to remember the hurtful experiences of our life (such as a broken bone when the adult-person was a child, for example). When we remember injustices in new ways, this helps us avoid being treated badly again in the same way by the same person.