Even though I forgive people, I still can get angry when I think back to the person and the situation.  It seems to me that I have not forgiven.  What do you think?

When we forgive, all of the anger does not necessarily leave us.  We still can have residual feelings that include anger, sadness, and disappointment.  If these emotions are not frequent and intense, and if you have gone through the forgiveness process and are wishing the other well (even if you cannot reconcile), then I think you are forgiving.  This does not mean that there is no more work to do.  When the negative emotions surface, consider going through the forgiveness process again.  It likely will be quicker and take away, once again, some of the negative emotions.

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