I want to forgive to restore an important relationship. Yet, I am afraid to begin the forgiveness process because the other may not want the relationship anymore. Under this circumstance, is it reasonable for me to reject forgiving?
Actually, it is very reasonable for you to continue moving forward with the forgiveness process. As you are aware, forgiveness does not provide a guarantee that the other will accept your overture of forgiving. Yet, if you forgive, you are opening the other to this possibility of a new start in the relationship. Even if the other rejects your forgiving, you have done your best, you may experience emotional healing, and so you can move on well regardless of what the other decides to do.