What questions can I ask myself to determine whether or not I have been treated unjustly?
I would recommend these questions to ask yourself:
Does your conscience convince you that what the other did was wrong?
If so, try to label what was unjust. Then try to label the extent of the injustice — Is it a minor issue or a more serious issue?
Further, ask yourself this: Am I denying my own part in this? In other words, did I push this person to anger? This does not justify harsh behavior on the part of the other, but it may reduce the degree to which you label the behavior as deeply unjust or not.
Still further, are you denying the culpability on the part of the other? In other words, sometimes we enable bad behavior by not wanting to confront the person or challenge the person to change. Is this happening to you? If so, then perhaps the injustice is more serious than you are admitting right now.