I have been ghosting a former friend, and, at the same time, I have been forgiving her from my heart. Is ghosting a sign for me that I am not forgiving?
Your ghosting is a sign that you have not completed the forgiveness journey at this point. Ghosting, or choosing to completely ignore a person even when the other tries hard to communicate with you, can be emotionally damaging. Therefore, even though you may be on the road to forgiving in terms of your thoughts and feelings toward your former friend, the ghosting is a sign that you still are extracting revenge to some degree. I would urge you to continue fostering the softness of forgiveness in your mind and heart, and then use these new developments to add behavior to the equation. Try to alter your behavior so that you are showing mercy toward her. If she is behaving in a way that is harmful to you, you need not enter back into the relationship, but you can break the ghosting pattern, for example, by a gentle email that she needs to alter behavior that has been harmful to you.
