My identity is kind of damaged since I left an abusive relationship. I forgave, but because I did not reconcile, I think of myself as a failure. I need your help on this.
I recommend that you make this important distinction: Did you fail in the relationship or did the one who abused you cause that failure? For instance, if the other stopped the abuse and you were able to trust, would you have left the relationship? I think the answer is no, you would not have left the relationship. My point is this: You tried, but the other did not make it possible for you to continue with the relationship. You did not fail and I urge you to say this to yourself so that you can stand in the truth that you did what you could.