If I am not angry or disappointed at the other’s actions, is forgiveness even appropriate? My partner is, what he calls himself, “lazy.” He is correct about this. He often does not get done what he has promised. He asks me to forgive him, but without the anger, can I do that?

Forgiveness is being good to those who have not been good to you, without excusing the wrong.  Both of you agree that his lack of promise-keeping is morally wrong.  Therefore, you can forgive even if you are not angry or disappointed.  For example, if you see him in a negative light as a person, part of your forgiving is to work on seeing the truth that he, in fact, is a person worthy of kindness and respect.

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