My friend recently told me that she approached her partner, telling him that she is forgiving him for her own sake, and not for his.  Is this true forgiveness?

It seems to me that your friend is using forgiveness in this case as a weapon against her partner.  Her statement to him is implying that she is concerned about herself as a person, not about him as a person.  True forgiveness acknowledges the personhood in the other person and offers compassion and kindness, which does not seem to be occurring in the scenario you describe.

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