I would like to say that forgiveness is fundamentally unfair. Why do I say this? It is because, as a person proclaims forgiveness toward another person, all that does is make the other person feel guilty. That’s not so nice—making someone else feel badly. What do you think? Can you convince me that I am wrong?

It’s true that declaring your forgiveness could make the other person feel guilty, but if the other person has done wrong, this is a very good thing. The individual may be able to change unfair behavior by feeling guilty and repenting. If you think about it, you actually are giving a gift to the other in this: You are gently helping the other to change unfair behavior. Did I convince you?

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