What if you approach someone and say, “I forgive you.”  Could this lead to even more tension? If she isn’t prepared to hear it, may this lead to an argument?

I think you are right. Proclaiming your forgiveness could lead to the other person getting angry at you if the person is not ready to hear it. Please keep in mind that there are no strict guidelines when it comes to forgiving someone. It is possible to show forgiveness without ever saying, “I forgive you.” Forgiveness can be shown and expressed in a variety of ways, such as by smiling, paying attention to what the other person is saying, returning a call, or speaking nice things about the person to other people. Yet, eventually, the other may be open to these words so you could be patient and not completely dismiss the idea for the future. Please keep in mind that you do not have to use those exact words to be sincere in your forgiveness.

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