How do I convey to my partner that forgiveness takes time? When he reads advice on the Internet, he is often faced with advice suggesting that forgiveness can be accomplished quickly, in four or five sessions. From my own experience, this is not true when there is deep hurt. How can I get this through to my partner?
I definitely understand your frustration with the advice that is all over the Internet. As you say, forgiveness takes time. I use the analogy of physical fitness. One does not become physically fit overnight. It takes time and practice. It is the same with forgiveness when a person has not practiced it much and there is deep hurt. I suggest using the analogy of physical fitness with your partner. I also suggest passing the following essay on “quick fix” forgiveness from my Psychology Today blog site to your partner: https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-forgiving-life/202302/be-wary-of-quick-fix-forgiveness
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