I have given up on therapy because my therapist suggested forgiveness. I do not want to just give in and say, “Okay, I forgive you. What you did was not so bad.” Can you offer me some advice on this?
I think you are misunderstanding what forgiveness actually is. When we forgive a person who acted unjustly, we do not make excuses for the behavior. That behavior was, is, and always will be seen as unjust. You are not letting the unjust behavior go, and you are not saying that it “was not so bad.” You are offering mercy to the person without condoning the behavior when you forgive.
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