Someone said that forgiveness is thinking kind thoughts about the offender. Is that all there is to forgiving?
If you think about this issue of thinking as forgiveness, you may quickly see why it is too small of a definition. Here is an example to dispel the myth that to forgive is only to have kind thoughts about the one who offended: Suppose Bradly is in a relationship with Susan. She acted unjustly toward him. He now thinks kind thoughts about her, but continues to yell at her, thinking that such behavior, as he says, “Will shape her up to behave better.” There is an inconsistency between thought and behavior on Bradley’s part. He needs to expand his understanding of forgiveness to include kind thoughts and kind behaviors as well as kind feelings toward her for a more complete view and expression of forgiveness.
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