I still think that my ex-husband has inherent worth as a person, but I cannot bring myself to forgiving him. In other words, I do not want to enter back into a relationship with him. So, how unforgiving am I?
Actually, I think you are confusing forgiving and reconciling. If you have good reasons for not entering back into a relationship with him, and if you cannot trust him, this is an issue of reconciliation. When two or more people come together again in mutual trust, this is reconciliation. When you begin to see the humanity in the one who was unfair to you, and you deliberately try to reduce negative feelings and work on more positive thoughts (such as his worth) and positive feelings (such as wishing him well in his life), then you are well on the path to forgiving. How forgiving are you? I think you are doing well.
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