I have engaged in the exercises of your Process Model of Forgiveness, trying to see the woundedness in the one who hurt me. Yet, I am still very angry. I want to be nasty to this person so I can get even. What advice do you have for me on this?
One homework assignment that we give to those who are in the process of forgiveness is to “do no harm” to the offending person. In other words, you make a commitment to yourself not to retaliate, even with words, so that the other person and you do not keep passing the pain back and forth. As you commit to “do no harm,” this tends to start reducing your anger. It also serves as a protection for the other person.
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