Is it all right for me to forgive with the primary intention of feeling better?  With this self-centeredness hinder my forgiving in the future?

There is a difference between being self-centered and being selfish.  If you hurt your knee while running, is it selfish to seek medical help? I don’t think so. It is self-care to go to the sports medicine clinic for treatment.  I want you to see that self-care is not the same as selfishness.  As a further point, your motivation (why you want to forgive) is different from what forgiveness itself is.  You can begin the forgiveness process for self-care.  Yet, the forgiveness process itself challenges you to be good to the person who was unfair to you.  In other words, forgiveness itself is other-centered, even when the motivation is self-care.

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