Is it all right for me to forgive with the primary intention of feeling better? With this self-centeredness hinder my forgiving in the future?
There is a difference between being self-centered and being selfish. If you hurt your knee while running, is it selfish to seek medical help? I don’t think so. It is self-care to go to the sports medicine clinic for treatment. I want you to see that self-care is not the same as selfishness. As a further point, your motivation (why you want to forgive) is different from what forgiveness itself is. You can begin the forgiveness process for self-care. Yet, the forgiveness process itself challenges you to be good to the person who was unfair to you. In other words, forgiveness itself is other-centered, even when the motivation is self-care.
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