I am a teacher, and my school is becoming interested in starting forgiveness education from kindergarten through grade 5. We have what are called restorative programs and so I am wondering what is the link between learning to forgive and practicing restorative justice.
Restorative practices tend to focus on dialogue, particularly dialogue in circles. This is a more behavioral approach than forgiveness, which focuses on what I call “the heart.” In other words, people who are angry with each other can dialogue civilly while in the circle, but if the heart is not healed of resentment, that anger can re-emerge once the circle ends for that day. Forgiveness first works on the anger in the heart so that the dialogue then might be more fruitful because the people are talking without deep resentment in the heart. Restorative practices and forgiveness can work very well together. I recommend this: First, work on forgiving those with whom you will dialogue in the circle and then enter the dialogue. It also could work this way: Enter the dialogue, and this could start to soften the heart toward whom you are angry. Then work on the forgiveness process after the circle ends.
