Where does self-forgiveness fit into anger at oneself or others?
We forgive ourselves when we have broken our own moral standards. Because it tends to be harder to forgive the self than other people, I recommend that you first forgive someone who has hurt you. Get to know the process of forgiveness this way. See how you broaden your view of this person and begin to see the person as possessing inherent worth, not because of the injustices but in spite of them. In self-forgiveness, yes, you are angry with yourself, but you will see as you now forgive yourself that even though you broke your own moral standard, you are a person of worth. As you see this, your heart likely will become softer toward yourself as you slowly develop self-compassion. As you do this you begin to lessen the anger. You then can stand in the pain of what you did so that you do not subvert yourself or take out your anger and disappointment on others. Then, try to give the gift of being kind and even loving toward yourself. As you do this, the anger toward yourself tends to lessen even more.
