May I ask a further question about reconciliation? Suppose the one who behaved badly shows what you call the 3 R’s of remorse, repentance, and recompense. Yet, the one who was hurt does not want to reconcile. What is your advice in this circumstance?
If the one who behaved unjustly has truly changed and the one offended rejects this, it usually is the case that this latter person has not forgiven in a deep way and may need more time. This is a delicate matter in that we do not then want to put pressure on the person to forgive, but at least hold out the possibility that this will happen. Genuine forgiveness can open the door of the heart toward a true reconciliation when the offending person has changed for the better.
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