What if I reconcile with my former partner and then, at times, I am triggered by current behavior that reminds me of the past? I am kind of worried about that. Might my anger well up again and hurt the current relationship?
It is not uncommon to be what psychologists call classically conditioned to respond now in certain ways based on what you experienced in the past. I think it is good to anticipate this and be ready to forgive again for what happened in the past. Not one of us is a perfect forgiver, so you likely will have some anger left over from the past. Knowing the pathway of forgiving now will help you to get back on that path when you are, as you say, “triggered” now by behaviors that remind you of the past.
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