What is the difference between “not taking it seriously” and forgiving?
To “not take it seriously” implies neutrality. When we forgive we never are neutral regarding the person who hurt us. We are hurt because what happened matters (for fairness) and whom the person is matters (because we share a common humanity). Thus, forgiveness is linked to: a) expecting fairness; b) having a sense of respect and even love toward the other; and c) self-respect and love. None of this is neutral and should be taken seriously. The key in forgiveness is not letting what matters destroy us or the other.
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