If I start to forgive, I have to look back at the past, at what happened to me. I am afraid to do that as it opens up deep emotional wounds. What do you suggest?

When you forgive a person, you focus on the qualities of that person, including the effort to see this person as possessing inherent worth.  Yet, you need not go back in your mind and dwell on the unjust event itself.  Once you have determined that the actions were unjust, you then can set aside the details of the injustice against you as you forgive.  A focus on the event is not the same as focusing on who this one is as a person.

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