Suppose there are five family members and they have a norm of angry outbursts among these members. Further, suppose that one and only one of these family members learns to forgive and starts applying it directly in the family. Do you think this one person could change the pattern of anger outbursts in the family?
Even one person could alter the norms of angry outbursts in a family, but it likely would take time, especially if the others resist. Yet, even one person who perseveres in forgiveness, discusses it temperately when appropriate, and shows restraint from the outbursts could change the norm. After all, norms occur when most people agree, even unconsciously, on ways of proceeding with one another. This one person’s changed pattern could alter the family pattern, especially when others see the gentleness in the one who forgives and begin to admire the results. So, if you are the one motivated to forgive in the face of the norm of outbursts, I definitely encourage you to do this, and over time.
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