If I try to minimize in my own mind the extent of another person’s injustice against me, this tends to lower my anger. Is this approach all right in your view?
No, actually, it is not, because it denies what happened. This denial will not necessarily lead to a more lasting reduction in the anger. For example, weeks later, you might have a thought that is more accurate regarding the extent of the injustice against you. You then will have to deal with that. If, on the other hand, you once again reframe the injustice with the distortion that it was not so bad, the more realistic appraisal likely will resurface later once again. It is better to see reality as it is so that you can see the extent of the injustice, the extent of the anger within you, and then deal constructively with this.
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